Rapport is defined as a sympathetic relationship or understanding. Its an ability of relating to others that creates a level of trust and and demonstrating you understand with their world view. It doesn't necessarily mean they like you at first, but there is a mutual connection.
Some people are naturals at building Rapport. Kids tend to be good at it, without knowing how or why, but as we get older it almost seems like we lose this innate ability to connect.
Wouldn't it be an awesome superpower if your child could connect with almost anyone?
There is lots of science out there, and psychology is stuffed full of studies on how people connect with each other. There are many books online that can explain the art of building rapport, including Tony Robbins, Ben Evans, and Claire Raines. One of my favourite resources however on building rapport would have to be "It's Not All About Me: The Top Ten Techniques for Building Quick Rapport with Anyone" by Robin Dreeke.
His process not only includes research into social and evolutionary psychology, but it’s been honed from years of field experience. FBI field experience. Yeah.
This book breaks down building rapport into 10 key areas. Now, when you look at these areas they look very adult-y. I want to try and link them back to some hacks that we can instill in our kids to enable them to better connect and build rapport with people.
1. Establishing that you wont take up much of their time
That is a lot of information to take in, even when summarised to these bare bones.
So how can kids start practicing the skill of building good rapport with others? We can boil down some simple hacks for kids..
The hardest one .. but most valuable in my opinion..
Always on the lookout for the ultimate Kid Hacks